Which is more intimate in your opinion?
To put your hands inside someone's underwear or inside his or her bank account or priorities in spending money? I think the second is even more private for most people.
"You got the brains, but you do not have the touch". What if you had put your hands inside my underwear? Hhhhhh
Of course, all is relative: it is hard to impress such a woman as that of the video. But there is a difference between "arrogant" and "proud, enthusiastic of what you have done, which is exceptional and cost you a lot of effort, it is your life". The second one can be "a little naive" but he or she is not arrogant in my opinion. My father used to say that I was arrogant as I was a child, but I was only "very proud of my work, enthusiastic": a little naive, yes. Later on, my father admitted that I had improved.
The arrogant is the aggressive, the one who explicitly intends to put the other down when he or she is not really that up or fears that the other will put him down in his turn, a little insecure.
It is not easy to tell which is which. When someone asks you which your profession is and you are a rocket scientist, you have to tell the truth. I used to be a nuclear fusion technology scientist: that was me, why not? There are women who are nuclear fusion technology scientists, there were some 25 years ago and obviously they are very proud of themselves, too, like men.
For all: when you overtake very difficult duties, it is for your own development: your character should improve at the same time as your abilities. And it does.
I think you are alright and what you have done does impress me, by the way and I try to understand it. But I did something almost impossible, too, which is also hard for you to understand. To me, it took 15 years to understand: and I am a multi-minority nuclear fusion tecnology scientist (= "I am not stupid").
It is indeed very difficult to understand: but nobody explained it to me and I had to learn it alone at a very high cost. I was told "to remain alive" and I think they knew what they were saying.
And the worse is that when you try to explain this to others, they do not believe you - exactly like me, 20 years ago. They fight back and do worse. It is useless to say "Pay attention": you have to let them go with the truth they believe, as it is the opposite. They are twenty years in delay.